~ Diné ~

Walking down the aisle, every bride wants her family and friends to go ‘wow’!

More importantly, the bride only has eyes for her soon-to-be husband, and his admiring smile as he waits for her.

After all the ‘wows’, come the vows…

Back in the days, when my parents were desperately in love and getting married themselves, the traditional vows were still used regularly in wedding ceremonies. One of these traditional vows were;

I, (name), take you (name), to be my (wife/husband), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.

There are many more traditional vows that vary slightly to best suit the couple getting married. If you find the traditional vows aren’t what you want to promise your bride/groom, you can write your own wedding vows. It is your wedding after all!

When writing your own vows try to make it something special and creative, as this is the day that the two of you are uniting as one. First decide if you are going to write the vows together, or if you want to write them separately.

If you have trouble thinking of ideas for your wedding vows, consider the following questions. Let them inspire you to decide how you want to word your vows, to best outline what promises you want to make.

• What is it you love about each other?
• When did you realise you were in love?
• How did you meet? What attracted you to each other?
• Do you have a special song with lyrics that expresses your love for each other?
• What promises will you make to each other that you could refer back to, during both the good and the bad times?
• Do you have qualities you want to promise to ‘try’ to avoid? (impatience, untidiness…etc.)
• Do you need to make a promise to do with children? (this is generally the case if one of you/both, already has children)
• Do you want to incorporate a religious promise?

When all is said and done, it will be you and your husband/wife standing at the altar, making promises to each other. So make sure those promises are ones you are willing to honour!